Okay, first of all, my new nickname is No Front. The reason why I chose this nickname for myself is simply because I don't like putting on fronts, and I hate it when other people put on fronts as well. It's very unattractive and annoying. I don't even consider people who put on facades like they're the shit or in an elite category of greatness. It's becoming a pet peeve to front, so I'd strongly advise all fronters to chill out...before I go to the trunk and bang on one of ya'll bitch ass niggas!
...See, I was just frontin' right there. But I will slap one of ya'll niggas.
So, what does frontin' have to do with types of females, you ask? Well, it's simple. I'm sick and tired of people in general, especially unattractive people, frontin' about people they admire and develop "types" about people. It's absolutely ridiculous! I think developmental types of people are a bit unrealistic. Standards can be a good thing, but when it's governed by the general, popular status quo of white America, it's not a good look...espescially in the black community.
Having types [or limiting oneself to a type] completely takes away from the meat of a person, in the case of relationships. It seems to me, for most people, that having a "type" of person to appreciate, sort of validates them. If a certain type of male/female is going to accomodate for your status as a person, then that's a personal problem. How low is your self-esteem? It's disheartening. The fact that a person is unaccepted and looked over in the establishment for a relationship is bogus because they don't fit a mold or a type. Some of the best people in the world don't always meet the standards or the requirements of individuals' personal preferences, but that doesn't make them bad if they don't meet the quota. It's sad, it really is.
I really don't admire types. They aren't real, and they never adequately define the essence of a person. I hear it all the time. Like, some people would say, "Oh, he/she is a cool person, but they're not my type." Then, when you ask a person what is their type, the utter ignorance shows its ugly head. I've noticed this a lot.
For dudes, they'll say, "She has to...":
*Be light-skinned
*Thin in the waist, but thick in the hips
*Nice chest
*Fat ass
*Smart (such a rarity)
*Have a nice dress game
*Long hair
*Knows how to fuck
*Knows how to cook up a good meal
*Nice lips
*Listen to similar types of music
*Gives head (how cheap, eh?)
*Be independent (if she was really independent, would she consider you?)
*Don't spaz out in public
*Look nice at all times
*Have a little bit of money, and don't mind paying for dinner
*Smells nice
*Don't be going through a nigga's phone
*Be willing to have 3-somes
*Hold a nigga down when shit gets rough
...And my all-time favorite [LMAO], "She has to go to church!"
As if that shit helps. Says absolutely nothing about a woman's salvation, but that's another post. As for the females [it practically gets worse].
"He has to...":
*Have money
*Have a car (sucks if you're a college student)
*Intelligent
*Sophisticated
*Good-looking
*Tall (is 6ft good enough?)
*Athletic built (cancels me out!)
*Be tough
*Treats me like a queen
*Treats his mother with respect (that doesn't help neither)
*Cuddle
*Hold my hand in public
*Tell me I'm pretty/sexy every day
*Do the little things
*Tell me good morning and kiss me goodnight
*Take me out to eat
*Take me shopping
*He ain't gotta be materialistic, but I wouldn't mind being spoiled every now and 'gain
*Don't trip when I check his phone, Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, and Blogger accounts just to see who he been talking to. It's not that I don't trust him, but...
*Have goals and aspire to acheive them
...And once again, my all-time favorite! "He has to be in the Lord and go to church."
[LMAO] It just kills me everytime a male/female mentions that. I laugh every single time. It's just simply hilarious!
Okay, on a more serious note, is it just me, or are these expectations and types of people a bit...you know...unrealistic? I mean, do people not think things through when considering a potential partner? It takes more than a few abstract things to make a healthy relationship and having types doesn't do anything for the natural and spiritual portion. People are human and humans aren't made to be perfect, so it's not okay to want something or someone who doesn't naturally fill these standards.
What's even more crazy about it, men and women often times want what they can't have. Oh yes, it's true! Some people just don't know how to stay in their lanes. They haven't come to accept that fact that 8 and below is the best they'll ever do. Sounds harsh, but true. It seems to me that the ugliest mu'fuckas are the ones yappin' about how they want this and that, and hold these crazy ass standards for people to reach. I understand that dudes want a light-skinned, long-haired, fat ass, nice eyed chick that goes to church, but I mean, seriously. If you look like the son of Danny Glover and Charles Barkley, you should just let it go; try finding a chick that looks like the daughter of Oprah and Amy Winehouse [I actually thought that bitch was fine at one point, but to each his own]. And yes, I understand that women want a dude with money, intelligence, looks like Boris Kudjo and smells like Aqua DiGio cologne, but forreal ladies. If you look like a crock-pot on steroids and your hair looks like "jungle boogie", then you should lower your standards. MEN/WOMEN WILL NEVER FIND THE PERFECT PERSON, THEY JUST HAVE TO ADAPT.
My type of female is quite simple. I don't ask for much from a female because I hate it when females ask for too much from me, as far as what I can offer. I don't want the best-looking female nor a female that's too extra, but I like keeping it simple. I just want a female who's in the church and is saved, and I want her to just be there for me. It's that simple. Screw all of the other stuff, just give me the plain and simple, and that's it. I don't want a trophy wife or some chick that's gonna make me look good. I look very damn good by myself, why would I want a female in my life to take up space. It would be nice if she loved football, loved hip-hop and could cook her ass off, but if she doesn't meet those requirements for me, I'm not gonna stress it. You just have to accept people for who they are.
What ever happened to wanting the natural and good-hearted person? The person who respects you for you, loves the spiritual and natural world, is saved by the blood of Christ [extremely important], is gonna REALLY be there for you when push comes to shove, loves hip-hop and all other types of music, culturalistic, and may not be the best-looking but accomodates for whatever they lack? The good things about a person that are important, always outweigh the non-essentials. People should be realistic about things, it'll work out in the long run. If we all learned to see the good in people, the world would be a much better place.
Don't lower your standards and expectations, but be open-minded and fall for the false types.
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